At one point I am sure we were crying louder than the baby. There were moments when we wished we never had a child. We started questioning our parenting skills. Screaming at the baby or nobody in particular became the way of life. But we found out that all parents go through this in some form or the other in varying degrees.
We spoke a lot of everything from birth of his daughter, parental responsibilities, looking for content with his kid, but the most interesting thing that he spoke about what his parents’ probably went through when he was a kid now that he is a parent.
It was such an embarrassing experience we had with Warren, he was our first guest and we ended up talking amongst ourselves for a good 25 minutes and guess what we forgot to hit record! So we had to restart the entire conversation and it was all good.
At some level the wives did question what have they got themselves into. Reality was far different from expectations. The relationship with the child, husband, family, and individually was going to change dramatically.
The wives take us through the various forms of paranoia, issues, concerns while they were pregnant and thoughts of having a healthy child would constantly come up in conversations. And they highlight the fact how a first pregnancy always accentuates these feelings and emotions that they encounter.
Being first time parents most definitely adds pressure to your already fast-paced, time-hungry life. But to top it off when you have to mutually come to an agreement on setting aside monies for purchasing baby products can add fuel to fire.
Are we mentally prepared to have this child?
Are we financially stable to sustain our lives along with a new human being?
What sort of sacrifices do we need to make to adjust to this new parental life?
Are we compatible, from a medical standpoint to conceive a child?
If both of us are working then how are we balancing work and life?