Are we mentally prepared to have this child?
Are we financially stable to sustain our lives along with a new human being?
What sort of sacrifices do we need to make to adjust to this new parental life?
Are we compatible, from a medical standpoint to conceive a child?
If both of us are working then how are we balancing work and life?
Now, the big entitled question, why don’t women demand sharing mental load? Especially when it comes to child rearing. Why don’t they demand their partners help with homework or housework or what have you? And I’m addressing women like me.
The modern day dads are the good guys who are resolutely involved in their child(ren)’s upbringing, ensuring that they not only balance theirwork and life, but also share equal responsibilities with the wife on the home front. These guys are aware that if it takes two to make, then it must take two to raise.
…which I was trying very hard to win but in the end there was always something left wanting. I argued back that “I work so hard for this family blah blah blah” but after a point I come to realize that I sound like a quintessential asshole
We know a lot of couples who had started taking their kids out from a very young age, either through intent or compulsion. There were some who had to travel with their kids when they were only 15 days old and some around a month.
The two women discussed all things pregnancy the following day. My wife complained of constant dry retching in the morning. She wondered why she was waking up so hungry. She was also feeling bloaty the past couple of days and was constantly tired.
The real reason is that you can chat away without being interrupted, but the day they do start talking and have their own opinions it’s impossible to get them to shut up. Though I have always wondered what is it that they are thinking, their decisive look is too contemplative and intelligent to merely pass off as clueless. Something must be going on in that tiny head of theirs – plotting, scheming… insulting even!